From My Perspective

Samhain. The Witch’s New Year. Halloween.   I am a Wiccan and I celebrate Halloween, in some ways, a little differently.   The traditional activities of dressing up, trick-or-treating, costume parties, and haunted houses are still celebrated. In fact, I went to a haunted house that was set up in the town library just the other night. I read an article in our local newspaper that said that grown ups are usually surprised as to how scared they actually were when they came out because they assumed it would be geared more towards children. They warned that you needed to know exactly what your child could handle. I went to a haunted house when I was younger at Six Flags that scared me a little more than this one did. However, this one had a carnival room which was, of course, filled with clowns. I mainly stared at the floor, letting my husband guide me through. The one thing that did scare me a lot was a girl coming out of a well with long black hair (like the girl from the Ring

Rereading the first entry in my journal reminds me that I have been transformed and that the process is never quite complete.   I wrote of how my relationship with other women had changed. When I was younger, I felt as if I could not trust another female. There was an air of competition ever present . It seems a bit immature in hindsight but then again, I suppose that it can still be true even among adults. We want to be the prettiest, the skinniest (or have the largest derriere), the most intelligent, or be the most successful. We see another woman thriving in their lives and get jealous that we don’t have what she has.   But thankfully my view has changed. I see another woman and I don’t want to be her. I want to lift her up. I want to encourage her when she feels less than. I want to be her biggest cheerleader. I want to praise her when she is doing well. I want to share her successes and shout, “look at what my sister has accomplished! Isn’t she amazing?!?”   Of cou

I was reading a blog yesterday about how to prioritize your day. The author said that you start off by listing your priorities, of course. Then you want to determine your goal s for each of your role s in life. This step really got me thinking.  First of all, what are my role s? I am a wife. I am a dog mom (yes, this totally counts as a role ). I am a housekeeper, for lack of a better word. I am a writer and I am a Wiccan. Is this all? Why do I feel like I do so much more? When I write it out, it seems kind of bland. To compartmentalize my life makes it sound so dull. Why am I not doing more with my life? What can I do? How can I change my life to make it sound more important?   But wait, my life is important. My husband tells me that he couldn’t live without me, so there’s that. If I wasn’t around, how would he be able to function? I mean, what kind of horrible bachelor life would that be like without me there to tell him to put the dishes in the dishwasher and t